Own Your Own Shadow

Not a day goes by when I don’t have at least one moment of ego-shattering clarity where I am reminded of just how much of a human-condition-afflicted mess I and all humans are, despite our best attempts at hiding it. When the shutters open on your denial for that brief second during the day and you see yourself particularly, but also others around you in the naked light of the full-and-unadulterated truth it is truly a shocking discovery, each and every time. We are a seriously messed up species. And in my experience, having these momentary glimpses into our upset and alienation is definitely an unavoidable by-product of allowing these all-liberating and ameliorating, yet necessarily all-confronting and exposing explanations into your life. But, the answers were only going to come with the full-truth about ourselves, they were never going to come from more denial and sugar-coating and we all intuitively know that.

When not viewed in their proper context, these sorts of moments, when I see my imperfections clearly, have the potential to bring on crippling despair, but the truth is that thankfully we now have these understandings that explain the human condition and all the upset and dysfunction that flows from it, and brings compassion to all of us resigned adults! And not just compassion for our upset, but they offer freedom from it. So when I have these ‘rude awakenings’ I now know that I simply have to view the situation from a more macro, human-condition-defended position and say things to myself like: ‘Ah yes, that’s right, I am resigned. I am a mess, but it’s ok. It’s understandable. Upset is actually a glorious battle-scar from the most heroic battle to have ever taken place on the face of this earth. I have suffered under the torturous imposition of the human condition. It was inevitable that I would end up with a particular set of frailties. But I am fundamentally good! I don’t need to dwell on this, my job is to simply help get these understandings to the rest of the world in whatever way I can!’ (Well, words to that effect, anyway.)

The following passage by Jeremy Griffith from Section 1:1 of Freedom: Expanded Book 2 encapsulates the redemptive power of these understandings to bring wholeness to the human race:


“We can at last explain WHY we humans have not been ideally behaved; to use religious terms, we can explain the origin of ‘sin’. And what is so wonderful in fact, SO wonderful it will TRANSFORM your life and the lives of all humans is that the explanation is compassionate. It explains that there has been a good reason for why we humans have not been ideally behaved. It is an explanation that completely dignifies and redeems us. It reconciles the opposites of good and evil in our natures and in doing so makes us whole. The great psychoanalyst Carl Jung was forever saying that ‘wholeness for humans depends on the ability to own their own shadow’ because he recognised that ONLY by finding understanding of the dark side of ourselves could we be made ‘whole’ and, as incredible a claim as it is, it is that all-liberating and all-reconciling and all-redeeming and all-healing and thus all-TRANSFORMING biological understanding of our imperfect human condition that will be presented here. That greatest of all days in our human journey of conscious thought and enquiry in fact, the day we have lived in ‘hope and faith and trust’ would one day come when biology would finally be able to explain the psychological origins of our species’ deeply troubled predicament or condition has now, and in the nick of time, arrived.” (Freedom: Expanded Book 2 Section 1:1)

Own Your Own Shadow

One of the key concepts from the above passage is Jung’s ‘owning your own shadow’. Jung was the originator of the term ‘shadow’ in the field of psychology. Here is a brief description from him: ‘The Shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality... To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge, and it therefore, as a rule, meets with considerable resistance’. (Carl Jung, CW9: AION: 14, accessed 4 Dec. 2012 at

I feel that this concept of the ‘shadow’ is so important to the transformation process. Without it I don’t believe you can make any real progress. You are forever ‘treading water’. You cannot escape any of the underlying guilt you will have. You cannot make peace with yourself. You cannot move on!

This other quote from Jung is so beautifully simple and logical: ‘We cannot change anything until we accept it’. (Carl Jung, accessed 4 Dec. 2012 at

Ok, so accepting your own ‘shadow-self’ through the ultimate of all understandings (that Jung did not have at his disposal) which we can do now, is a very handy thing. Interestingly, but not surprisingly, you will also struggle to accept and understand the ‘shadows’ of those other resigned adults around you! I just love what Jung has to say about this: ‘Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people’. (Carl Jung, accessed 4 Dec. 2012 at

Now I think we do need to be very mindful of the fact that everyone’s ‘shadow’ or ‘dark side’ will consist of a multitude of less-than-desirable aspects. (Some aspects, thankfully, we will never even be aware of.) So we need to treat this thing as a package deal! We simply own our ‘shadow’ in its entirety.

We must also keep in mind the bigger goal for our generationthe ‘conduit generation’. We do not need to fully self-repair; to somehow try and reverse the corruption meted out to us by the human condition. We simply need to ensure that this information gets into the hands of the next generation. Then, we will have done our job to the letter!

Imagine the future: the human condition is but a distant memory; a generation of humans emerge who are fully secure psychologically; we humans will be whole again; ... and the world will be truly FREE!

This Blog Post was written by Anthony C on December 13, 2012


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  • monica on December 11, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    Yeah, all the guilt and insecurity that eats away at us underneath over our own ‘dark side’ has been SOOO preoccupying and hindering and compounding but it is absolutely incredible how ACCEPTING the very good reason for it as this explanation allows us to do ends that preoccupation and the cycle of selfish, destructive behaviour that goes with it instantly! Absolutely everything does a 180 degree turn around! Despair is transformed into hope, emptiness into meaning, heaviness into energy. Even now, the energy that has gone into compensating for all the guilt etc, for that energy to be liberated in us human conditioned humans, freed to now focus outwardly on something as powerful as this in its ability to solve all the worlds problems is one exciting and momentum building vision!! The world literally stops hurtling towards catastrophe and faces towards freedom, sunshine and hope for real, for the first time ever and we get to be a part of it, what an incredible gift of life, what more could we ask for!!

  • Aggie on December 11, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    Wow! I instantly feel relieved and hopeful again. I have “those” moments every day too, seeing the shadows within myself and in those around me. Some days when I am not “framed up” for the day it does get overwhelmingly despairing. Today I thought to myself “I am afraid of LIVING”, it was one of those moments when my shadow felt enveloping. But how wonderful it is now that at the end of the day I can come home and plug into this incredible new addition to the WTM website, that I can love my shadow again as a beautiful battle scar and that I can get myself together for another day, contribute in my own small way to this project and continue with this incredible journey towards supporting a wonderful new world. Thankyou so much.

  • outlet on December 16, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    Excellent article, bookmarked for future referrence

  • Graham on August 4, 2013 at 2:45 pm

    The picture in your article of the boy being over shadowed by the man is quite haunting and implies a shadow cast over us by the mad world that awaits the child. To think that this cycle could at last be broken inspires hope for all of us. Thankyou.

  • Libuse Young on August 4, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    It’s like being half human ,to becoming a whole human,by owning your own shadow.It;s really all about acknowledgement of one’s so called darker side.One of the most difficult things to do.So in order to transform the world,we need to educate the world…so how do we do this? One person at a time or mass media?

  • Anthony on August 4, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    Thanks so much for your interest and comment Libuse. Yes to be able to own our own shadow we do need to be able to acknowledge our dark side but the only way to truly do that is to be able to understand its source and therefore be able to have compassion for it.

    This is the unique and all-powerful aspect of Jeremy’s biological explanation of the human condition. We can now finally understand that our immense upset is a result of humanity’s 2 million year heroic search for knowledge and that in fact we are a fundamentally good and worthy species. This new knowledge opens up an entirely new way of living for humans and it is the power of this way of living — the Transformed Lifeforce State — that transforms the world and fast!

    I think this section of Jeremy Griffith’s answer to the question: Why will everybody in the world adopt the Transformed way of living? will help with your question of how this will transform the world:

    “We are rational creatures, so when all the rationale, all the logic says there is only one response we can make, namely letting go of our angry, egocentric and alienated way of living and taking up the TRANSFORMED WAY OF LIVING, then that is the response the human race will take.
    Of course, it will come as a huge shock that this dreamed of breakthrough in the human journey of the liberation of the human race has finally happened, and there will be a certain amount of procrastination because everyone is so habituated to their old power, fame, fortune and glory-seeking lifestyle, but all the logic and thus power lies with the new TRANSFORMED WAY OF LIVING. There is absolutely no need or justification for imposed force, for yet another conflict-filled revolution to introduce this new TRANSFORMED WAY OF LIVING, however, so powerful is the logic for the change to the TRANSFORMED STATE that before long people still living in the old embattled, have-to-prove-your-worth way of living will feel like people caught wearing last year’s fashions. There is such a stark difference between the free, expansive, enthralled TRANSFORMED life and the old embattled egocentric existence where your mind is narrowly focused and preoccupied working all the angles every second of every day defensively seeking validation/reinforcement/a ‘win’, that those living in the old way will seem like a different species. Compared to the new expansive, all-exciting, free TRANSFORMED STATE, those still stuck in the old embattled paradigm will be like sad, dead people. The old way is so clearly obsoleted now that when this new way of living catches on it will sweep the world.”

    We can’t hope to confront the extent of our upset and damage but we can rationally understand and admit to it and move forward with the knowledge that it has done its job and is now an obsolete way to live. I would encourage you to watch our Introductory Video Series where this is fully explained and evidenced, particularly Video Series 2 Where Jeremy Griffith answers a series of questions and answers, which give a terrific summary of the explanation of the human condition and the transformation that it makes possible. Thanks again, Anthony

    • James Dean Truax on July 16, 2019 at 1:18 pm

      First thing you need to do after learning about the shadow is to turn off listening to things outside your feelings make your own idea distance yourself from society spend as much time in nature and meditate and always follow ever thought fully threw if you react to something physically ask yourself why you reacted to this follow it till you can’t no more also one must indulge yourself with death wonder to yourself what it would be like to go to sleep and never wake up again never insult someone else and never tell someone else what they should believe in and listen to others more stop having your opinion to there story your live will change quick

  • Lewis on November 18, 2014 at 2:46 pm

    Can you provide a citation for the following quotation purportedly said by Dr. Jung:

    ‘Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people’

  • Anthony on November 18, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    Thanks for your interest Lewis. To my knowledge this quote is from Jung’s book ‘C.G.Jung Letters 1906-1950’, published by Princeton University Press (1973), editored by Gerhard Adler and Aniela Jaffe. I don’t have access to a copy of this book but according to Google Books that is the source of this quote.