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This is Freedom Essay 26


Men and women are finally reconciled by
the understanding of the human condition


Written by Jeremy Griffith, 2017


With the finding of understanding of the human condition the lives of men and women are finally reconciled, and the historic so-called ‘war of the sexes’ thankfully comes to an end.


A man with handful of barbed-wire and a woman weeping with a bunch flowers approach each other by cartoonist Michael Leunig

Men and Women, War and Peace, by Michael Leunig


The biological explanation of the human condition that we now have (see Video/​F. Essay 3) allows the often combative and aggressive behaviour of men to be understood and brought to an end. This change brings about the real liberation from the oppressive world of men that feminists, indeed all women, have yearned for.


This explanation brings about the true liberation of women and the reconciliation of the sexes, which is truly extraordinary.

(Scientist Dr Anna Fitzgerald – see Video/F. Essay 9)


As is fully explained in chapter 8:11B of FREEDOM, ‘Men and women’s relationship after the emergence of the human condition’, with understanding of the human condition it can now be appreciated that the ignorance of our instinctive self or soul of our conscious thinking self or ego’s need to search for knowledge posed a threat to humanity and, since the historic role of males has been one of group protector (against marauding leopards, and the like), men had no choice but to take on the responsibility to fight this battle to champion our conscious thinking self or ego. This meant that when this upsetting battle against our instincts began after the emergence of consciousness some 2 million years ago, the nurturing matriarchal or female-centric priority that created our altruistic moral instincts and a cooperative humanity (see F. Essay 21), was superseded in importance by a patriarchal world. Men necessarily and unavoidably had to defeat the ignorance of our instinctive self or soulthis was humanity’s new priorityfor if that battle wasn’t won humanity would self-destroy from perpetual ignorance and resulting terminal upset, in particular ever increasing and ultimately intolerable levels of alienation.

So while both men and women have suffered from the corrupted state of the human condition, men in particular have carried a burden of guilt about the exceptional angry, egocentric and alienated lives they were beset with as a result of battling so determinedly and heroically against our ignorant instinctive self or soul. For 2 million years men have had the loathsome and upsetting task of defying our all-sensitive and loving, yet unjustly condemning soul, all the while unable to explain why they were so upset and embattled. But now, having found the liberating explanation of our upset human condition, men have finally completed their job of championing our ego or conscious part of ourselves over the ignorance of the instinctive part of ourselves, and will finally find peace.


Johnathan Thurston with daughter

Australian Rugby League superstar Johnathan Thurston celebrates
his team’s 2016 grand final victory with his daughter Frankie


It has been a wretched position for men to not be able to explain themselves, explain why they have been so egocentric, competitive and aggressive, as this quote from the literary editor Asa Baber makes clear: ‘One of the reasons that men have been so quiet for the past two decades, as the feminist movement has blossomed, is that we do not have the vocabulary or the concept to defend ourselves as men. We do not know how to define the virtues of being male, but virtues there are’ (see paragraph 773 of FREEDOM). Indeed there are virtues; while women created humanity with their nurturing, men have been the heroes of the great battle against ignorancethey saved humanity.

Thus, far from being the villains they have so often been regarded as, men turn out to be nothing less than the heroes of the story of life on Earth. This is because humans’ fully conscious mind is surelygiven its phenomenal ability to understand the worldnature’s greatest invention, so to be made to endure for some 2 million years the torture of being unjustly condemned as bad or evil for doing just that (defying our instincts in order to find understanding) has to make all humans, but men in particular, the absolute heroes of the story of life on Earth! Men have always felt they were ‘number 1’; the very best not the very worst as they were thought of as being, and it is finally revealed that they actually are! Redeeming and relieving understanding at last comes to men’s horrifically embattled lives.


Liberated people dancing in front of rising sun


With men finally in a position to metaphorically ‘put down the sword’, rest and recover, so too will women be finally able to return from looking after, supporting and inspiring men with their ‘attractive’, sex-object image of innocence, to focusing once again on the now all-important task of the nurturing of their infants. And men, no longer preoccupied with their task of championing the ego or conscious thinking self, will finally be in a position to support women in that now all-important task. The arrival of understanding of the human condition brings about the real liberation from the oppressive world of men that feministsindeed all womenhave yearned for. And, best of all, it finally reconciles the lives of men and women at the deepest level. (The inspirational role of women is explained in the next Freedom Essay 27.)


Man and woman holding hands with sunset background


This is the time the great South African writer Olive Schreiner dreamed of when she wrote, ‘if I might but be one of those born in the future; then, perhaps, to be born a woman will not be to be born branded…​It is for love’s sake yet more than for any other that we [women] look for that new time…​Then when that time comes…​when love is no more bought or sold, when it is not a means of making bread, when each woman’s life is filled with earnest, independent labour, then love will come to her, a strange sudden sweetness breaking in upon her earnest work; not sought for, but found’ (see pars 798 & 899 of FREEDOM).

Again, much more is explained in chapter 8:11B of FREEDOM about the real relationship that has existed between men and women during the upsetting battle to solve the human condition.

And, as mentioned, F. Essay 27 explains women’s role of helping men, including by inspiring them with their ‘attractive’ sex-object image of innocence. Indeed, that essay explains the real role sex has played during humanity’s upsetting battle to solve the human condition.


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Watch Jeremy Griffith present the breakthrough redeeming explanation of the human condition in Video/​F. Essay 3, or read chapter 1 of FREEDOM.


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  • Tommy on June 14, 2017 at 11:57 am

    It’s been a hard thing to grow up in this world without understanding! I have read somewhere in the WTM books a comment like this lack of understanding that has existed between men and women has caused some of the deepest wounds in humanity’s journey, and I can certainly attest to that. Understanding men was a show-stopper for me. Just as Brian Carlton says on his video on the home page you remember the time and day etc when you finally ‘get this’ understanding. From a feminist start, my ‘a-ha’ moment which really broke through my denial, was understanding men and their behaviour. This really DOES ‘finally reconcile the lives of men and women at the deepest level’ and that is an amazing statement.

  • Willow on July 2, 2017 at 3:20 pm

    It’s so exciting to finally be able to understand the human condition and how it is the reason for the gulf between men and women and that that gulf is now healed and men and women can finally live together in peace as we have always dreamed we would – if you haven’t already I’d really encourage the reading of Chapter 8:11B in Freedom, titled ‘Men and women’s relationship after the emergence of the human condition’ that’s linked to in this email. It is utterly breathtaking, as is all of Freedom.

  • nomad on August 18, 2017 at 1:59 pm

    I learnt a lot from this, and the next email in this series, on Sex, is also very important.

  • Elise on December 9, 2017 at 11:35 am

    I have to defer back to this understanding of men and women so often when I see myself wanting to jump on the feminist train and vent my anger toward men and their unjust treatment of women. But that only makes me feel worse and doesn’t help situation at all. When I re-read the explanation of men and women I can understand why women today are only recognised as sex objects and then become invisible which is terribly confronting, but also so relieving. When I can be honest about myself I can then be so much more understanding and supportive of men and how they have suffered with the human condition as well, and then I can feel so much compassion for their situation. My relationship with my husband has been saved by this. With so much divorce in the world we need to get this explanation out to everyone as soon as possible and prevent many broken hearts.

  • Stefan van den Hout (the one) on January 4, 2018 at 1:15 am

    Also consider basing the worldeconomy, Root of many problems, on the future mode of : `Sharing’.
    Share together and save the world (Maitreya the worldteacher)(

  • Sally on January 12, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    With so many children now growing up in broken families and having to adjust and live with how that impacts their psychological development, how wonderful is it that Jeremy Griffith’s explanation of the human condition brings compassionate understanding to, and, in doing so, an end to the deep divisions between men and women. As this email says: “And, best of all, it finally reconciles the lives of men and women at the deepest level.” How relieving to think children in the future will grow up in a truly peaceful and harmonious environment free of the conflict and suffering caused by the human condition. Thank you!

  • Jason Fisher on January 26, 2018 at 5:30 pm

    What is this study concluding in simple terms? And does it support lgbt?

    • abi on January 27, 2018 at 12:09 pm

      Hi Jason, this is my take on it: this study supports all humans! Whatever their sexual orientation the biological explanation in Email 3 says that we are all fundamentally, at the very deepest level, good and worthwhile. AND, this study shows that none of us have to be egocentric or selfish ever again because that was just an insecure response to not being able to understand our fundamental goodness. Its a lot to take in Jason, but the key for me was understanding that basic biological explanation in Email 3. As a woman, it has made a huge difference in my ability to understand men’s behavour, and that generosity and compassion will be the same across the whole sexual spectrum. I hope that helps, Abi.

  • Azwitamisi on March 29, 2018 at 12:33 am

    So amazing

  • Thanks...🙏🌿 on April 25, 2018 at 7:21 pm

    Some much as God is Love 💕 God is Wisdom⚖️⚓️…((([+])))!!!

  • Gerry St. Onge on June 8, 2018 at 1:20 am

    An amazing thorough and clear explanation of a most critical subject that has been the source of great suffering and carnage for millennia! It takes all the mystery and confusion out of this age old confusion and conflict between men and women about sex! Its Just another example of how this powerful information; the understanding of the human condition explains everything! I am so grateful to I have discovered Jeremy’s powerfully illuminating work and this WTM new world community!

  • Joe and Hollianna Mayes on January 26, 2019 at 12:20 am

    Hi there, I just want to start by saying thanks for bringing this knowledge to the masses.
    All though I must syart over with the study and application of this material i am certain of its impact on myself and those around me , so thank you for the continued correspondence.

  • John tembo on March 30, 2019 at 8:07 am

    Hi ,very good and very interesting thanks

  • Martin 229 on January 18, 2020 at 8:18 pm

    The problem of women denying their Jungian Shadow is not mentioned here.
    Men are criticised, men are potentially praised.
    Men are doing their best, and we know a lot about how men are failing.
    How are women contributing to this mess, and what can / should THEY be doing about this !?
    If moderators see any malice in this, then please explain !!

    • Lizzy on January 22, 2020 at 3:27 pm

      I’m pretty new to this Martin but the role that fell to both men and women under the horror of the whole HC is covered very well for me in the next essay. What I understand so far is that of course women have suffered and been immensely corrupted by the HC, myself included, and thanks to this defending info, we can face that now and be honest about it and own it, no matter the sex, creed or colour. It’s all such a mess and what I see is so important is to really get a handle on what these essays are presenting as I can see that only by understanding ourselves will make any difference to the pain between the sexes or anywhere you look around the place.

  • Dr.Hamid Mousavi on February 12, 2020 at 4:40 pm

    Dear Friends
    It really is a masterpiece….
    Long Live.
    Sending you lots of love and light.
    Dr.Hamid Mousavi

  • Daniel on March 28, 2020 at 3:07 pm

    I have had a predilection for peak experience and experiencing the holy presence of the sweetest nurturing love. At one time I could look at someone and see who they really were. I could somehow translate or turn around their negative emotions And use that to show them the truth about their real self. They would always be amazed at what they would say is how I was the only one that really knew them. I called this technique translation. I’m an older man now and I don’t really use this gift of translation, I raised a family in the peak highness of spiritual experience diminished in the light is not so bright now. But I somehow see in your writings that I wasn’t far off at all from knowing this spiritual truth. I shall keep reading.

  • Deepak Bhatt on July 23, 2020 at 6:06 pm

    By instinct man & woman can give birth to Human. But Humanity takes birth by caring & nurturing. Present time demands conscious parenting. Science have given us child psychology to understand every need to take care. Children are future citizens. They are hope for better world,so raising them with love make them responsible for tomorrow. Thanks to Jeremy Griffith & WTM Team.